This is my life experience. I was 12 when my mom died. She died at the age of 48. After 2 years of chemotherapy she did not make it. At the age of 17 I lost my father from cancer. It took him much less. It was only 6 months, but painfully the same. At least he suffered less. My mom was a tall, blonde beautiful woman with brown eyes. My sister says that my mom cooked amazingly well. My father was strict and straightforward. People say I look a bit like both of them. And honestly when I hear that, I feel the luckiest person on earth. This is my fear; I am afraid of losing people I love.
The stages of moving on:
At the age of 17 I visited my first psychotherapist. After two very big losses it was the best thing to do. It did not last for long. After two years, and following a huge break-up I visited the second therapist. The same happened there. At the age of 25, I visited another therapist. Boy, this is boring! I started to believe that no one could help me. At the end of the day it is not their fault. They were all highly skilled professionals. I was the one who had the issue. I lacked acceptance.
Last year, and after I got into a new relationship I visited the fourth therapist. She was not different. But I was different. I was ready to accept myself and make the change in my life and in the inner me. I am learning on how to listen. I am learning about communication. I am learning about acceptance. I am learning about love.
How are negative feelings generated? Negative feelings or limiting beliefs are usually generated from a life story: a break-up, a death, a dismissal or an unpleasant situation.
What happens when we have negative feelings? We get stressed and we do not enjoy the very important things in life; like love or the life itself. Limiting beliefs can can hold people back from success, happiness and fulfillment. They are difficult to spot on and harder to overcome.
How do these beliefs affect our life? They hold us back from realizing our goals.
How to avoid negativity and feel happier?
• Identify limiting beliefs that you may have. For instance: lack of motivation, lack of enthusiasm, laziness.
• Take control of your confidence.
• Ignore other people's opinion and concentrate on what YOU think of yourself
• Replace limiting beliefs with affirmations.